Recently, I caught up with my dear friend Mary. We are ‘lifers’; friends committed for the long haul. Grace for time lapses are a given. When we do finally catch up, we vow to not allow as much time to pass before our next contact.
With covid craziness abating, I talked with renewed enthusiasm about our plans to move to Cambridge, England for Doug’s three month sabbatical this August. Mary asked the obvious question… “how in the world will you pull that off?” And she wasn’t referring to the cats or the house we would leave behind. “I have no earthly idea,” I responded candidly.
“Wow, I’m Shocked!”
Because we know each other and our family circumstances so well, it’s rare that anything would surprise the other. But this time was different. “Wow, I’m shocked” said Mary, “you don’t even seem worried.”
It was indeed a high compliment. Mary was right. I’m not worried. But my sense of confidence and her curious observation got me to thinking.
What has changed in me that I’m not worried? And how exactly will I pull it off?
Perhaps this recovering control freak is beginning to get it.
Philippians 4:12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.
Even though this passage refers to material security, the same principal applies to whatever the enemy uses to disrupt our peace.
Notice that even the Apostle Paul had to “learn the secret of being content.” In other words, Paul used to struggle with it too. Which means that being content is a skill that can be learned.
Like Paul, I have learned the secret too. The way I see it, when worry is present, contentment is absent. They are two sides of the same coin. It’s as simple as that. And wow… does worry get heavy. Spoiler alert…I know what causes worry, and I also know it’s remedy.
Here’s my profound conclusion….
Wait for it…
Worry stems from not trusting God. The remedy to worry is to trust God.
That’s it. Now you know the secret too. We do overcomplicate it, don’t we?
So once we know the secret, I guess the more pressing issue becomes HOW do we trust God. While praying and studying related scriptures here are my ramblings on the subject.
- The reason I don’t trust God, is because I trust myself more.
- I trust myself more because I think I know what would be best.
- I’m slow to trust God because I can’t control His answer.
- Of course, I would always choose comfortable and easy.
- God rarely chooses comfortable and easy. He chooses what is best for my good and His glory.
- Trusting myself is unsustainable.
- While circumstances are good, my self sufficiency works which gives me a false sense of contentment. I take the credit and my pride swells.
- But then WHEN, not if but when, the storm hits, my peace is gone in a blink.
- Without God, my contentment depends on good circumstances.
- Good circumstances are never permanent.
- I need help. I will always need help. And God is my ultimate help.
- God helps the humble. God leaves the proud to their own limited resources.
- I’m prideful when I behave as if I don’t need Him.
- Sometimes I’m slow to trust because I want to understand the why of each step.
- When I understand I think I’m better able to manage the outcome.
- God delights in answering my prayers in ways I couldn’t imagine.
God’s Provision and Faithfulness
- God’s provision is daily, on purpose. If the Lord provided a stockpile, I wouldn’t need Him every hour.
- How will I get through the rest of my life? One day at a time.
- When I remember God’s faithfulness, study His word and grow to know His character, trusting Him comes naturally.
My Obedience and Contentment
- My job in this life is to keep my eyes on Him and do what He says. He’ll guide my steps one day at a time.
- When I agree to yield to His ways no matter what, He delights in surprising me and this life of faith is exciting.
- Peace and contentment are mine when I keep my priorities straight.
- When I can’t understand the mind of God, I must trust the heart of God.
- I demonstrate trust by casting my cares on Him, freeing myself to do the work of the kingdom (loving my neighbor, sharing my faith, reading His word). God takes care of me in the process.
Supporting scriptures (1 Peter 5:6-7, Proverbs 3:5-6, Philippians 1:6, Isaiah 26:3, Psalm 56:3)
The Wedding at Cana
Do you remember the story of Jesus’ first miracle at the wedding in Cana? (John 2:1-12)
On the third day, an unworried Mary calmly reports to Jesus, “they have no wine.” (During a week long wedding celebration, this would have been a problem of epic proportions) Jesus’ response is confusing. “Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” Mary doesn’t panic, she doesn’t even clarify, she simply instructs the servants matter of factly, “Do whatever he tells you.”
Mary leaves the scene in confidence and the servants follow Jesus’ specific, somewhat strange instructions.
Here’s the thing… The servants had no idea there was a miracle just beyond their steps of obedience. And… they got to be part of it.
What God asks of Each of Us
The way I see it, that’s what God asks of each of us. We’re to trust the Lord with any circuitous route He may take us on and do what He says along the way. The point is HE is leading and we are following. His miracle is just around the corner and, He wants us to be a part of it.
So… how will I pull it off? I won’t. I’ll keep my eyes on Him, do what He says and trust He’ll make a way where there is no way.
As the lyrics say…
"Way maker, miracle worker, promise keeper Light in the darkness, my God That is who You are."
Dear Lord, I Praise You for who you are. Today my trust in You is secure. But there is always tomorrow. Forgive me for when I’m swayed by competing voices. Thank you Holy Spirit for helping me to learn the secret and to accept Your grace when I slip. Help me to prefer Your will, no matter what. Amen.
For His Glory, Debbie Hucke
Toni Hulce says
Hi Debbie, Thank you for somehow always writing a blog that helps me thru on physically bad days-Today’s blog is fantastic and will stay in my heart forever.
You are amazing.
Toni, You are warrior. One day at time, my friend. I look forward to when our paths cross in person.
Toni Hulce says
Clark and I pray for the day we can worship in person again-For the past 2 years we have only missed 2 Sunday mornings of Worship at Sandia Pres on U-Tube! We were blessed to be able to remain a part of our Church thru these most trying 2 years.
Amen. We miss you both!
Anne kole says
Thank you Debbie. What struck me about your article today is that God provides for me day by day on purpose. Worry usually involves the future. And because I know who holds the future, I must trust him. That’s the challenge for me! Remembering how God has provided for me in the past helps. He’s never failed me, even when I thought I knew better what was best for me. I have learned that he is God and I am not.I need only to trust him for today, and today is all I have.
I must deliberately remember that in this journey.
Your insight is a blessing!
Amen Anne. That’s such a calming thought. Matthew 6:34
Betsy Everett says
Wonderful article as always! Much to ponder on. Being a bit of a controlling person, (like many people) I often plan my day/ future without God. But I have to say, the older I get, the more I pray and study the scriptures, the better I am at trusting God. And to paraphrase what you said, “change is inevitable!”
Wooohooo. Progress. That is great news. It’s critical we stay vigilant though. Thankful for accountability through our Christian brothers and sisters or even circumstances that demand our re-focus.
Berta Pitzer says
YES!! Love this! I love how you’re not worrying about the Sabbatical leave!! God’s been working on me in trusting Him and letting go of the past and the future and to live “in the moment” with Him. Why? Because, as you said, He’s God and I’m not! Also, he’s only given us today to live in. Thanks for putting it clear and listed out for us to SEE!! Now we get to choose each moment to trust Him…or not.
Yesterday was a bit if a “derailment,” your words today helped me get back on “track”.
And God is still beside me!
Indeed He is. Amen.
So good Deb! Love your transparent recovering control freak heart.😘
Thank you my friend. So glad you’ve reconnected.
Emmy Browning says
Wonderful message. Being a control freak and trusting all to God can be difficult at times. Just try to stay on the God chosen path.
Thank you Emmy. Yep, that’s the goal.
So well said! Thank you! I am sitting here waiting for my husband to be taken back for a long awaited prostrate biopsy and your words have encouraged me…with God we’ve got this. We don’t know what is ahead but God does and He will provide.
Amy Cinda. God’s timing is perfect. Prayers for your your next steps. Chin up!
Glenda Demmie says
Thank you again Debby for such an encouraging blog. I was reminded of the old Gospel song that I learned as a teenager but haven’t heard or sung for a long, long time “Moment by moment” Trusting God Moment by moment, is the secret to contentment, as you so beautifully explained. I’m going to get that old song out and sing it to myself for the next several days. Thanks again for the reminder and for being so open and caring to write these blogs for my and all the recipient’s blessings. God uses you mightily. Much Love,
Glenda, thank you for your email. I dont know that song. But so pleased to have triggered your memory. Im indeed blessed to be a blessing.
Terri J Roseth says
So much to digest and ponder. You and I are definitely. sisters from another mother. Your writings speak directly to my heart and always help me remember and refocus my heart toward what God wants for me. Thank you Debbie from my heart to yours.
Sisters from another mother… I like that. God Bless you, Terri.